Tuesday, June 4, 2013

If life sends lemons, go into the lemonade business

Breaking up is hard to do. Your twenties are a time of understanding who you are, what you want, how you want to live, and what you should do with your life. This is especially true in terms of romantic partners, and lifemates. These questions can get tricky, especially the ones pertaining to love. What is love and who should I spend my life with? You should definitely have a list of 3-5 non negotiables in a partner. But what if your partner meets every non negotiable except one, very important pre-qualifier? Do you compromise on one of your needs because you are in love? What if you try to compromise for years but you can't help the feeling of something missing? How do you let go of a person who is wonderful in most all other aspects?

There are certain things that people need to feel comfortable and okay in their everyday lives. Every person has the divine right to decide on these needs and to seek the relationships and circumstances which foster them. You have a divine right to do what makes you feel good and feel happy.

I guess what I am trying to say is that life is messy and the decisions that go with it are messy as well. Learn to love the mess. Don't judge it. Accept it, and relentlessly accept yourself as you find it within that mess.

You need a balance of being ruled by your head and your heart. You should know what you need to feel good. The most important thing to remember is that you are in control. You are creating your own reality. You are the boss. And you can get what you want and what you need out of life. Decide what you are willing to live with, and without, and hold strong to those requirements. Do not compromise to make anyone else happy - except yourself. And remember, learning comes in phases.

There is nothing wrong with learning and the experiences that it brings you.What happens to you is not good or bad, and you are not good or bad for how you act in those experiences. Simply allow the experience, and learn from it, take your power, and make the decisions that suit you, based on what you are learning.

Unfold and be well.